LOVING AND TAKING CARE OF ME by Fran Hafey
So many people today share how they just don't feel happy. Being
happy is up to us, not anyone else. Let's define "happiness" and
see what we can do to learn to love ourselves and be happier. I
actually didn't like the definition in the dictionary because it
spoke of good luck, being fortunate, enjoying or showing
pleasure, satisfaction or joy. I like the part about joy, but the
rest, I am not so sure about.
I guess my definition of happy has nothing to do with luck it has
to do with the heart. When we are happy, we feel it all the way
to the core of who we are. We may feel happy when something good
comes our way and during life moments when good things happen. We
even feel happy when in a balanced loving relationship, but when
we are not feeling happy, then what?
What can we do to help ourselves to feel and be happy?
Loving and taking care of your self are two very important things
we can do to help us be, and stay balanced and happy.
Although life throws us some curve balls that may come pretty
fast and furious, we still can learn to maintain our balance or
to regain it quicker than we would have before when we didn't
understand what we could do to help ourselves.
With so many changes occurring all over the world, we feel this
new energy and may need to step back and remember how important
we are.
What truly makes you happy?
Do you feel that your life is being rushed, or that you spend too
much time alone, or would you like to change careers or just do
something you've always wanted to do?
You may feel that things will never change, but once you define
what it is that you want in your life, you can then begin to
manifest the changes. This may not happen over night. We often
have to take one step at a time to help these changes to occur in
our lives, so patience is also something we need to learn along
with good, positive, healthy thoughts.
You may want to start small and take time to do something you
love, whether it's going for a nature walk, adopting a new pet,
reading, writing, creating, taking a long, hot bath with
aromatherapy, changing your hair, playing a sport, or just being
nice to yourself and not making so many demands.
It took me a long time to learn to love myself and to take care
of me. I would let people run all over me, take advantage, take
up my time, or say something that would upset me. Then I learned
I didn't have to do that. I began within and found the person I
was missing and brought her back to life!
I knew I was in there somewhere and I just had to find me. I
slowly began to throw out old, negative memories that had hurt,
made me angry or caused some kind of damage to my heart. I kept
working, tossing out the junk, learning to help others while
surrounding myself with love, light, healing, peace and all the
things that I loved.
I found as space was being made within I could fill it with all
the things I desired, but I also had to learn along the way, how
to do this. When something is not working in our lives, then we
have the choice to learn how to change it and that is just what I
did.
Loving and taking care of ourselves involves being good to us! I
learned to listen to my inner self and not let others influence
me, or my decisions in my life in a negative way. I paid
attention to how I reacted to people and situations and if I felt
uncomfortable I would take it head on and figure out why. Then I
would change it.
It's like changing a negative statement to a positive one. We get
what we speak and what we put out. Another words, if you speak
negative you will get negative, if you treat people nasty or act
in a negative way, don't be surprised when that's what you get
returned.
By loving and taking care of me, I have set myself free!! I have
worked through many bad habits and problems, and can now safely
say I know who I am and that I love myself, because well, after
all, we are in this body with the many aspects of who we are and
I choose to feel and be happy and take loving care of me!
Copyright: Mystickblue (c) November, 2003 All rights reserved.
About the Author
Fran Hafey is a Spiritual Counselor, Writer, Healer, Earth
Activist and Lightworker.
She provides guidance and inspiration via her Website, groups and
newsletter through
the Internet and other Resources. To read more of her articles
visit the Author's Website:
http://Mystickblue.com or
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/SpiritualPathways/join
She's currently working on publishing her books about Love,
peace, inspiration, magic,
Soul connections and nature stories for Children of all ages.
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